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Make Your Crews Fix Their Own Interpersonal Conflicts
by Ron Roberts and Ranger Kidwell-Ross
   You've got a headache on your hands because two of your best employees can't get along. What should you do? 
Here's the scenario: You've got two guys in your company who are fighting. John 
doesn't want to work around Mark. Mark doesn't want to 
listen to John. Their behavior is running off people.
Unfortunately, they are also your most skilled workers
and you'll have trouble replacing them. 
 
What do you do?
 
Well, if I'm in your shoes and I can't split them up, 
I'd do everything I could to get them to see the BIG 
picture.  Which is:
 
We are all in this together!
 
Sit these two clowns down and tell them:
"You two are making things stressful for everybody 
who works around you, for everybody in the office, and
for me personally. Sometimes even our customers notice.
The fact is, you need to work together. The other members 
of your crew need you to work together. We all need 
you to work together.
 
"You see, we're all in this together. We all sink or 
swim together. When you're acting like stubborn little children, it
holds all of us back. It takes time and energy away from everyone and hurts all of our pocketbooks. It forces me to spend time keeping the crew all 
functioning. 
 
"That keeps me from hitting the streets and drumming 
up new work. And, the more time I spend playing referee 
with you two, the fewer hours you may get. Surely, 
that's not worth the benefits you guys get from 
fighting with each other.
 
"So we need the two of you to work your differences 
out. If you need to approach me separately and 
privately, great. But you two need to come together 
and find a way to work together in roles where the 
work gets done as we need it to. For yourself, for 
the other employees and for us in the office."
 
After meeting with both of them together, meet with 
each privately. Explore the issues from both sides. 
Find out what is running through their minds, then 
counteract their behavior by focusing them on 
professionalism, workmanship and teamwork. Appeal 
to their pride. Help them get over their pettiness.
 
Above all else, get them focused on group success. 
It's the one theme that almost all people respond 
to. 
   The Road to Success. 
The thrill of success is very addicting. Try to 
tap your employees' desire for it. Most importantly, GET THEM TO FIX 
THE PROBLEM(S) THEMSELVES. 
 
When you step in to fix the problem, instead of 
helping them fix the problem, all you're doing 
is creating a pattern where you're going to have 
to step in every time something comes up.  You're
never going to escape the micromanagement. You'll
never be completely free to do what you need to 
be doing to make your business a success. 
 
Your employees need to solve their own problems. They
need to become self-managing and mutually 
accountable. The reality is most workers are drawn
to that type of work environment because they're 
going to be more successful working that way. 
 
So, your real goal is to turn them into a 
self-managing crew. A crew that needs minimal 
oversight. A crew that gets work done quickly, 
properly and safely. That's your real goal with 
your field personnel. Once your crews can take care
of themselves, you're off to the races. 
 
That's today's message. Focus on creating teamwork 
amongst your guys and don't let them put every 
problem back in your lap. Coach them. 
 
Working these interpersonal conflicts out is not 
something that comes naturally to many lower level
workers. They tend to be individuals of few words 
and questionable people skills. Like it or not, you need to be prepared to 
cover the same ground time time after time.
 
Until next time, best of luck with your business!
 
Ron Roberts,The Contractor's Business Coach
 
More information about Ron Roberts' and his company may be found on his website FilthyRichContractor.com. Ron may be reached via email sent to ron@filthyrichcontractor.com.
 
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